Counselling and psychotherapy are available across Angel Islington, Holborn, Bond Street, Wimpole Street, Oxford Street, the West End, and Marylebone.
Face-to-face & online counselling sessions for adult individuals and couples.
I am a qualified counsellor with clinics across Angel Islington, Holborn, Bond Street, Wimpole Street, Oxford Street, the West End, and Marylebone.
I am committed to providing counselling, psychotherapy, and talking therapy in a safe, confidential, and non-judgmental environment. I work with individuals and couples using an open-ended counsellor approach or for an agreed-upon period to enable you to enhance your lives and live them more fully.
I understand that seeking out therapy might be a difficult decision for some, but I firmly believe that when an individual makes that step, it is because they are ready for change and growth. Using my counsellor training and counsellor knowledge, I will work with you towards a better awareness of yourself and yourself in relation to those around you.
Nothing you say will shock me, and everything you say is always confidential.
Together, we will recognise and explore patterns in yourself and others, what your triggers are, and where those patterns may have originated. I do not believe in immediate fixes; rather, most issues are relational problems.
I work from clinics in Angel Islington, Holborn, Bond Street, Wimpole Street, Oxford Street, the West End, and Marylebone. Currently, I have availability in the West End and Marylebone - behind Selfridges.
It's about the relationship we have with a problem that causes us pain; how you react to a topic, person or life event that causes upset in your personal and/or professional life.
The Process for starting
The process is something like this:
Couns.Dip, Cert.Psych, MBACP
I am a qualified counsellor offering face-to-face counselling and psychotherapy services in Angel Islington, Holborn, Bond Street, Wimpole Street, Oxford Street, the West End, and Marylebone, London.
I also offer online counselling sessions via the secure platform Zoom. Hybrid online and face-to-face counselling sessions are also available.
I am available for a free 15-minute conversation on the telephone for clients to discuss what they want out of therapy. Please ask about an in-person full assessment session if you prefer—in Angel Islington, Holborn, Bond Street, Wimpole Street, Oxford Street, the West End, and Marylebone.
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Therapy for Relationship Breakups & Separation
Navigating the Complex Emotions of Breakups and Separation
Whether it's a marriage, civil partnership, or a significant
other, facing a breakup, separation, or divorce is never easy. The myriad
emotions involved can be overwhelming, making it feel as though your entire
world is collapsing. This is where counselling can play a crucial role, helping
you navigate through these tumultuous times and come to terms with your new
reality.
Emerging with a Positive Outlook
While it might seem impossible, positive outcomes can emerge
from the painful experience of a breakup or separation. Processing what has
happened allows you to recover and even come back stronger. Counselling helps
you work through your emotions, learn from the experience, and foster a more
positive outlook for future relationships.
Emotional Reactions to Breakups, Separation, and Divorce Trauma
Breakups can be traumatic, triggering both physical and emotional reactions.
These may include sleep disturbances, appetite changes, headaches, and stomach
issues. Emotionally, you might experience disorientation, hyper-alertness, mood
swings, panic, isolation, and detachment.
Grief
The end of a relationship is akin to a loss, eliciting grief. You might grieve
the relationship, the person you lost, the future you envisioned, and even the
version of yourself that existed in the relationship. This grief is natural,
even if the relationship was negative or abusive.
Confusion
Separation can leave you feeling confused and disoriented. You might struggle
with questions about your feelings, the right course of action, and your
future.
Feeling Stuck
A common feeling during breakups is a sense of being stuck, either in the
relationship or within yourself. This can manifest as feeling trapped, weighed
down, or unsure about your desires and identity.
Rollercoaster of Emotions
You might experience a wide range of emotions, including anger, freedom, guilt,
shame, relief, joy, and failure.
Overwhelm
The legal and practical aspects of separation, such as dealing with lawyers and
custody battles, can add to the emotional strain, leading to feelings of
overwhelm and breaking point.
Powerlessness
Breakups can induce a sense of powerlessness, feeling unheard and voiceless.
This can pertain to both the relationship and the way its ending is handled.
Anxiety and Depression
Given the emotional turbulence, feelings of anxiety and depression are common.
You might feel hopeless, panicked, or constantly worried.
The Bader-Pearson Developmental Model of Couples Therapy
The Bader-Pearson Developmental Model of Couples Therapy
provides a framework for understanding and addressing the deep-seated emotional
patterns and unconscious motivations that influence relationship dynamics.
Developed by Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson, this model is particularly
effective in helping individuals and couples navigate the complexities of
breakups and separation. Key elements of this methodology include:
Developmental Stages of Relationships
Bader and Pearson identify specific stages that
relationships typically go through, from initial attraction to a mature
partnership. These stages include:
1. Symbiosis:
2. Differentiation:
3. Practicing:
4. Rapprochement:
5. Synergy:
Attachment Styles
Attachment theory plays a significant role in the
Bader-Pearson model. Early childhood experiences with caregivers shape how
individuals approach relationships. Recognising your attachment style (secure,
anxious, avoidant, or disorganised) can provide insight into your reactions to
separation and help you identify patterns that may be influencing your current
emotional state.
Emotional Regulation
The model emphasises the importance of developing strategies
for emotional regulation. This involves learning how to manage intense
emotions, such as anger, sadness, and anxiety, which are often heightened
during breakups. Techniques such as mindfulness, cognitive restructuring, and
emotion-focused coping can be beneficial in this process.
Interpersonal Dynamics
The Bader-Pearson methodology examines the intricate
dynamics between partners. It highlights how each partner's behaviors and
emotional responses affect the other, creating a cycle of interaction. By
understanding these dynamics, individuals can gain clarity on how certain
patterns contributed to the relationship's end and how to avoid repeating these
patterns in future relationships.
Self-Awareness and Growth
A core component of the Bader-Pearson model is fostering
self-awareness and personal growth. Counselling encourages individuals to
explore their emotional landscape, understand their relationship history, and
identify the underlying factors that led to the breakup. This self-discovery
process is crucial for personal growth and for building healthier relationships
in the future.
How Counselling Can Help
Counselling provides a dedicated space for you to process
the breakup, separation, or divorce. It offers a chance to:
Moving Forward with Counselling
Counselling offers a moment of pause in the whirlwind of
separation, helping you gain perspective and begin the healing process. It
helps you understand what has happened, reconnect with yourself, and start
answering important questions about your future:
By working through these questions, counselling can help you
plant the seeds for the new life you wish to create. To take the first steps
toward recovery and growth after a breakup or separation, contact Rachel to
discuss counselling for coping with relationship breakups.
Feel free to contact me if you have any questions about how counselling or psychotherapy works, or to arrange an initial assessment appointment. This enables us to discuss the reasons you are thinking of coming to counselling, whether it could be helpful for you and whether I am the right therapist to help.
You can also call me on 07549 165 155 if you would prefer to leave a message or speak to me first. I am happy to discuss any queries or questions you may have prior to arranging an initial appointment.
All enquires are usually answered within 24 hours, and all contact is strictly confidential and uses secure phone and email services.
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