John Jeremiah Ahearne

COUNSELLING AND PSYCHOTHERAPY IN Angel Islington, HOLBORN,

Bond Street, Harley STreet, Cavendish Square, oxford street, and Marylebone


London Counselling and Psychotherapy (LCaP)

Integrative Therapeutic Talking & Listening Therapy, through a Psychodynamic Lens

Accredited Counsellor and Psychotherapist with clinics in Angel N1, Islington EC1V, Holborn, Bond Street, Harley Street, Cavendish Square, Oxford Street, the West End, and Marylebone.

Face-to-face & online counselling sessions for adult individuals, couples and other relationships (family and non-traditional).

Welcome to my website

I am a qualified and accredited counsellor with clinics across Angel, Islington London, Holborn, Bond Street, Harley Street, Cavendish Square, Oxford Street, the West End, and Marylebone.

I am committed to providing counselling, psychotherapy, and talking therapy in a safe, confidential, and non-judgmental environment. I work with individuals and couples using an open-ended counsellor approach or for an agreed-upon period to enable you to enhance your life experience(s) and live them more fully.

I understand that seeking out therapy might be a difficult decision for some, but I firmly believe that when an individual makes that step, it is because they are ready for change and growth. Using my counsellor training and counsellor knowledge, I will work with you towards a better awareness of yourself and yourself in relation to those around you.


Nothing you say will shock me, and everything you say is always confidential.


Together, we will recognise and explore patterns in yourself and others, what your triggers are, and where those patterns may have originated. I do not believe in immediate fixes; rather, most issues are relational problems.

I work from clinics in Angel, Islington London, High Holborn, Holborn, Bond Street, Wimpole Street, Harley Street, Cavendish Square, Oxford Street, the West End, and Marylebone. Currently, I have availability in Islington, West End and Marylebone

It's about the relationship we have with a problem that causes us pain; how you react to a topic, person or life event that causes upset in your personal and/or professional life.

“Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise.”

– Sigmund Freud

”The fact that grief takes so long to resolve is not a sign of inadequacy, but betokens depth of soul.”

– Donald Winnicott

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”

– Mahatma Gandhi

“Let me say to begin with: It is not neurotic to have conflict...Conflicts within ourselves are an integral part of human life.”

– Karen Horney

“How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.”

– Wayne W. Dyer

“It is a joy to be hidden, and disaster not to be found.”

– Donald Winnicott

“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it.”

– Eckhart Tolle

The Process for starting

The process is something like this:


  • We have an initial 15-minute telephone call.
  • You tell me a little bit about what is going on for you and why you have reached out for counselling and psychotherapy.
  • I will tell you a bit about what I can offer you as an integrative therapist.
  • If by the end of the telephone consultation we are both happy to go ahead, we move on to looking at both our diaries to agree on a weekly day/time slot for each week in person at Angel, Islington, Holborn, Bond Street, Wimpole Street, Oxford Street, the West End, and Marylebone. I also offer online counselling sessions or hybrid counselling sessions.
  • I offer a once-weekly model, which can be short-term therapy or long-term therapy (open-ended).


  • If you would prefer a full in-person assessment session in Angel, Islington London, Holborn, High Holborn, Bond Street, Wimpole Street, Harley Street, Cavendish Square, Oxford Street, the West End, and Marylebone, please do ask.

Couns.Dip, Cert.Psych, MBACP

Enhanced DBS Renewed March 2025

My locations

I am a qualified counsellor offering face-to-face counselling and psychotherapy services in Angel Islington, Holborn, Bond Street, Wimpole Street, Harley Street, Cavendish Square, Oxford Street, the West End, and Marylebone, London.

I also offer online counselling sessions via the secure platform Zoom. Hybrid online and face-to-face counselling sessions are also available.

Angel N1 & Islington

EC1V Counselling & Psychotherapy




Holborn, High Holborn & Chancery Lane Counselling & Psychotherapy




Oxford / Bond / Wimpole St, Manchester Square W1U Marylebone Counselling & Psychotherapy

Harley Street, Cavendish Square, Oxford Circus W1G Marylebone Counselling & Psychotherapy

Fees & availability

  • Adult Individual Counselling and Psychotherapy: £90 - £145 per therapeutic session (50 minutes)


  • Adult Individual Counselling and Psychotherapy: more than once per week: £90 per therapeutic session (50 minutes)


  • Adult Couple Counselling and Psychotherapy/ Separation Therapy: £135 - £185 per therapeutic session, depending on time of day & length of session


  • Other Relationships Counselling and Psychotherapy: £135 - £185 per therapeutic session, depending on time of day and length of session


I am available for a free 15-minute conversation on the telephone for clients to discuss what they want out of therapy. Please ask about an in-person full assessment session if you prefer—in Angel, Islington London, Holborn, High Holborn, Bond Street, Wimpole Street, Harley Street, Cavendish Square, Oxford Street, the West End, and Marylebone.

Some of the issues that people seeking therapy look for online

August 2025

  • Depression
  • Low self-esteem
  • Anxiety
  • Low self-confidence
  • Family issues
  • Trauma
  • Stress
  • Bereavement
  • Couples therapy
  • Mental health
  • Feeling sad
  • Loneliness
  • Addiction
  • LGBTQ+ counselling
  • Kink aware therapy
  • Childhood trauma


  • Neurodiversity
  • Person-centred therapy
  • W1G Psychotherapy
  • Social anxiety
  • Anger management
  • Integrative counselling
  • Panic attacks
  • Sex problems
  • Attachment disorder
  • Cognitive and behavioural therapies
  • Psychodynamic therapy
  • Health anxiety
  • Islington Counselling
  • Suicidal thoughts
  • Affairs and betrayals
  • Boarding school trauma


  • Eating disorders
  • Abuse
  • Work-related stress
  • Generalised anxiety disorder
  • Dissociation
  • Perfectionism
  • Islington
  • Marylebone Counselling
  • Alcoholism
  • Emotional abuse
  • West End Counselling
  • Career counselling
  • Self-harm
  • Sexual abuse
  • Binge-eating disorder
  • Psychoanalytic therapy
  • Adverse childhood experiences (ACE's)


Monthly Spotlight

Relational Therapy - using an attachment-based methodology


Relational Therapy: Healing Through Relationship

When people ask me what kind of therapy I offer, I often reply that I work relationally. It’s a simple enough phrase, but behind it lies something rich, layered, and deeply human. Relational therapy is not a method or a set of techniques—it’s an attitude, a stance. It’s a way of being with clients that places the relationship between us at the heart of the work. Because so often, it’s not just what happened to someone that causes pain—it’s how those experiences shaped their relationships with others, and with themselves.


Relational therapy recognises that we are relational beings. From the moment we’re born, we learn who we are and how safe the world is through our connection with others. If those early relationships were nurturing, consistent, and attuned, we’re more likely to develop a stable sense of self and the capacity to form secure relationships. But if love came with conditions, if needs were met unpredictably or dismissed entirely, then we may carry into adulthood a sense of not being safe, not being good enough, or needing to earn closeness.


So many people come into therapy carrying relational wounds—feeling misunderstood, mistrustful, overly dependent, chronically isolated, or caught in painful dynamics that seem to repeat themselves. In relational therapy, I’m not only interested in what the client says, but how they relate - to me, to themselves, and to the world around them. It’s not about offering a fix from the outside. It’s about co-creating a new kind of relationship within the therapy that might allow for healing, for reflection, and eventually, for transformation.


One of the most helpful ways I’ve found to understand these relational patterns is through attachment theory. I don’t introduce it right away, and I certainly never use it to label someone. But over time, it can be an incredibly useful framework for helping clients make sense of the deeper structures that shape how they connect—or disconnect—from others.


Attachment theory, originally developed by John Bowlby, suggests that the quality of our early relationships with primary caregivers shapes how we relate to others throughout our lives. These early “attachment styles” are not fixed or pathological, but rather adaptations—clever, often unconscious strategies we’ve developed in response to the emotional environment we grew up in.


There are four main attachment styles that I sometimes talk about in therapy:

Secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganised.

None is good or bad—they each tell a story - and each has many tributaries that run off of the main river...

When it comes to attachment styles, I believe that we have main attachment style that is dominant but we have small percentages of all the other attachment styles based on many factors.


A client with a secure attachment style may have had caregivers who were emotionally available, responsive, and consistent. In adult life, they may feel reasonably comfortable with intimacy and independence. Therapy with securely attached clients can still go deep—especially if a trauma or recent loss has disrupted their sense of safety—but there’s often a solid foundation to build from.


Clients with an anxious attachment style, by contrast, may have experienced inconsistent caregiving—sometimes loving, sometimes distant or rejecting. As adults, they may fear abandonment, become preoccupied with others’ approval, or struggle with intense feelings of not being enough. In therapy, they might need a lot of reassurance, or worry about how I perceive them. Rather than pathologising this, I see it as a communication—an emotional echo from the past. The task is not to fix it, but to gently explore it, staying consistent and attuned so that new patterns of safety and trust can begin to form.


Those with an avoidant attachment style may have grown up in environments where emotional expression was discouraged or where their needs weren’t reliably met. As a result, they may have learned to rely only on themselves. In therapy, this might show up as difficulty opening up, emotional detachment, or an emphasis on independence. With avoidant clients, I try to honour their need for space while slowly inviting emotional contact, without rushing, and without trying to “get through” their defences. Often, those defences kept them safe once. Therapy respects that history.

Disorganised attachment, perhaps the most complex, is often rooted in traumatic early relationships, particularly when the caregiver was also a source of fear or threat. Clients with this style may oscillate between seeking closeness and pushing it away. Their relationships may feel confusing or unsafe, and therapy can evoke powerful responses of mistrust, idealisation, or fear of being harmed. Here, I aim to create a steady, transparent, and boundaried therapeutic relationship, one where safety can gradually be established. Ruptures may be more frequent, but they also offer profound opportunities for repair—something the client may never have experienced before.

But attachment theory is only one lens among many in relational therapy. I’m always paying attention to how the client and I are co-creating the space together. Are they taking care of me emotionally, or are they allowing me to care for them? Do they expect me to know what they need without asking? Do they shut down if I get something wrong, or do they feel able to tell me? These patterns—sometimes subtle, sometimes dramatic—are significant. They often mirror what has happened in the client’s relationships beyond the therapy room.

One of the most powerful aspects of relational therapy is the opportunity for repair and growth. In ordinary life, when relationships go wrong—when there’s misunderstanding, disappointment, or rupture—we often retreat, retaliate, or bury the feelings. But in therapy, we can slow it down. If I say something that lands badly, and the client feels hurt or disconnected, that becomes part of the work. Not something to avoid or sweep away, but something to name, explore, and understand. And when the client sees that I don’t punish them for bringing it up—or abandon them emotionally—it can be deeply reparative. It’s not the absence of rupture that matters most, but the presence of repair.

This kind of work takes time. It can be slow, subtle, and sometimes messy. But it’s also deeply hopeful. Over time, the client may begin to internalise a new way of relating—a sense that they can be held emotionally, that they can express needs without fear, that they don’t have to manage everything alone. This internal shift often begins to ripple outward: relationships outside therapy start to change, self-worth strengthens, and old patterns begin to loosen.

Relational therapy also asks something of me. It requires that I bring not just my training, but my whole self, my presence, my attention, my capacity to feel and reflect. It’s not about self-disclosure or blurring boundaries, but about being real, authentically engaged, emotionally available, and reflective about what’s happening between us. That’s what gives the work its depth and its integrity.

In the end, relational therapy is about the relationship as the healing agent. We use the therapy relationship not as a neutral backdrop, but as the ground on which the client can begin to trust, to grieve, to feel, and to grow. It’s through being seen, held, challenged and cared for—often in ways that were missing before - that healing becomes possible.

And for me, there’s something profoundly moving about that. Not because I’m the one doing the healing, but because the relationship itself becomes a space where the client can become more fully themselves. That, to me, this is the essence of relational therapy 🙂


Books of interest

  • The Body Keeps the Score - Bessel van der Kolk
  • Object relations & relationality in couple therapy - James L Poulto
  • Mentalizing in Psychotherapy - Carla Sharp; Dickton Bevington and Peter Fonagy
  • Existential Kink - Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power - Carolyn Elliott
  • Psychotherapy and the Highly Sensitive Person - Elaine N Aron
  • And How Does That Make you Feel? - Joshua Flethcher
  • The Games People Play - Eric Berne (Transactional Analysis)
  • Toxic Family: Transforming Childhood Trauma Into Adult Freedom - Susan Gold
  • Psychoanalytic Ideas series - Psychosis (Madness) & Perinatal Loss & Breakdown
  • Psychoanalytic theories: perspectives from developmenta psychopathology - Peter Fonagy & Mary Target
  • The Unconscious at Work - Anton Obholzer
  • Maybe You Should Talk to Someone - Lori Gottlieb
  • From Breakdown to Breakthrough: Psychoanalytic Treatment of Psychosis - Danielle Knafo and Michael Selzer
  • Kink-Affirming Practice - Culturally Competent Therapy from the Leather Chair - Stefani Goerlich
  • Mad, Bad and Sad - Lisa Appignanesi
  • Everyday Madness - Lisa Appignanesi
  • Thinking Space: Promoting Thinking About Race, Culture and Diversity in Psychotherapy and Beyond - Tavistock Clinic - Frank Lowe
  • Was it Ever Just Sex? - Darian Leader
  • Dreams That Turn Over a Page: Paradoxical Dreams in Psychoanalysis - Jean-Mitchel Quinodoz
  • Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror - Judith Lewis Herman


Get in touch

Feel free to contact me if you have any questions about how counselling or psychotherapy works, or to arrange an initial assessment appointment. This enables us to discuss the reasons you are thinking of coming to counselling, whether it could be helpful for you and whether I am the right therapist to help.


You can also call/text/WhatsApp me on 07549 165 155 if you would prefer to leave a message or speak to me first. I am happy to discuss any queries or questions you may have prior to arranging an initial appointment.


All enquires are usually answered within 24 hours, and all contact is strictly confidential and uses secure phone and email services.


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Angel, Islington London, Holborn, Bond Street, Wimpole Street, Oxford Street, the West End, and Marylebone.

N1, EC1V, WC1V, W1, W1G, W1U, W1J, and W1R.